Create a Good Marriage
Ten Ways to Transform Your Marriage is an article at www.CBN.com
Last night at dinner, our oldest daughter (married a year) was here. Dan asked her how married life was, and she said “good, yours?” We looked at each other and I said “It gets better every year!”
Katie replied, “Too bad it isn’t that way for everyone.”
Then we got into a conversation about keeping a marriage good, fun, growing. Dan made the point that even if a marriage seems good, it can always get better. In marriage, like in life in general, we have never “arrived”.
Marriage is not maintainance free. It takes continuous work, and a willingness to do your part. The only trick to having a good marriage, is to realize that even when it is good, you still need to work at it.
Think of it this way- when a bridge is built, it is strong and can take a heavy load. It can go for years bearing weight of enormous amounts. If the bridge is not maintained and worked on to make sure it is structurally sound- regularly- one day it may surprise everyone and suddenly collapse. The collapse could have been prevented if it were checked up on and had been kept up to par. It seemed fine, but under the surface there were things rotting it away. Things which could have been caught and fixed if someone had paid better attention, and taken the time to work on it.
The same holds true for marriage. Instead of assuming things are fine, we need to make sure all is well. We need to have standards we set for our marriage. Communication, time, having fun together, making love regularly- all these things need to be kept up on.
Read this for a list of the Top Ten Strengths of Marriage.
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