Marital Talk

I thought I would share some of the things I have learned along the way to being married this long (27 years). I know the list can never cover everything, but these are some things that I have been noticing and thinking about lately.

I have learned to share. Not things (although I share things too), but myself. I have learned that in order for a relationship to work right, and be consistently good, both people have to be willing to share themselves. I am a private person, and I have a hard time expressing what I am feeling sometimes. I have learned to be open and honest with Dan about my feelings, and my emotions. I have learned to share my dreams, my hopes, and even my fears. I have also learned to share my time. I am extremely jealous of anything that takes time from Dan that could be spent with me, and I have learned that it is ok to share.

I have learned that if I want something, or want Dan to do something, he hates to be hinted at. I have learned this more than once, and I expect that it will be a constant learning process. I don’t like to ask for help, I just want help- and he won’t respond to hints, except with getting angry that I don’t come out and ask.

I have learned that I am a blessed woman. I have the best husband in the world, and I know it. It seems everyone around me knows it too, because I am constantly being told how wonderful Dan is. He is wonderful, and I am blessed. I used to get angry with people when they would ask me if I knew how blessed I am. I would say things like-”Well, he doesn’t have it too bad either you know!” Now I just smile and say “I know!”

I have learned that there are some things we will never agree on, and that it is ok to disagree. We are each entitled to our own opinions, and the things we disagree on will not make a difference in our relationship if we don’t allow them to. Thank God though, that we agree on more than we disagree on.

 I will write more about the things I have learned next time. Now, I want to congratulate April Gilford on receiving the “You Lift Me Up” award, from Good Christian Life.