I have to say goodbye to writing the marital talk blog. I have enjoyed sharing this part of my life, and will miss it. I will continue writing the parenting and religion blog, so please visit there.
I hope the new writer will enjoy sharing the married life with you. God bless!!
Jean
Who’s your best friend? Is it your spouse?
I can honestly say that my husband is my best friend. When you think about what being a friend and having a friendship means, being friends with your spouse should be the foundation of your marriage:
being kind to each other
being honest with each other
loving when it’s difficult
not being judged for making mistakes
having fun together
talking to each other
listening when the other talks
making up when a disagreement happens
being faithful
encouraging each other
The other benefits of marriage will grow as the friendship grows. Being friends with your spouse will open up areas of relationship that you wouldn’t have if you were only lovers. Being friends and lovers is the best.
If you get dizzy, you better stay off the marriage go round. OK, you may be asking “What is a marriage go round?”
Let me tell you, a marriage go round is the thing all married couples deal with that they keep going round and round with. They will never agree on it, and both of them continue to think they can sway each other to their way of seeing it, doing it, or thinking about it.
It will never happen.
Now, getting off the marriage go round is as easy as deciding that going around and around has gone on long enough. Decide that being of a different opinion, persuasion, or doing things differently is ok.
It is no big deal if he puts the glasses in the cupboard out of order, at least he put them away. It’s no big deal if she pulls the car in the driveway, rather than back it in. At least she got it in the driveway without hitting anything.
And how about opinions? Who cares if he thinks the color of the house is green, and you say it’s turquoise?
Being on the marriage go round may give you something to talk loudly about, but if you get off of it, how much more intimate talking will you be able to do, and enjoy?
I say, agreeing that it’s ok to do things different, think different and hold different opinions will make marriage much more enjoyable, and help you grow as a couple.
Marriage is one job that has the ability to make us love it, hate it, adore it, and despise it all at the same time. Here at Marital Talk you will see discussion about marriage concerns, marriage joys, humor, Q&A, marriage and family, and of course romance and intimacy. Join in with comments or questions and discuss what's going on in your marriage.
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