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Introducing Tim Kellis

Tuesday, March 31st, 2009

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I wanted to take a minute to let you all in on an amazing secret - author Tim Kellis is going to be guest posting here weekly for the next three weeks! While I’m still getting used to wedded bliss, he’s going to fill us in on some of his marital secrets from his new book “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”.

Renowned Wall Street analyst Tim Kellis takes on what could be considered society’s biggest problem today: divorce. The journey that led to him tackling such a significant issue was both personal and professional. After a successful career that eventually landed him on Wall Street, Tim met what he thought was the girl of his dreams, only to see that relationship end with bitterness and anger. The journey included work with a marital therapist, and after he discovered the therapist wasn’t really helping decided to tackle the issue himself.

Ambition and a strong aptitude for math helped lead Kellis to discover how to make relationships work. His math skills led directly to an engineering degree, nine years in the telecommunications industry, an MBA in finance, and finally on to Wall Street, where he became the very first semiconductor analyst to focus on the communications market.

After publishing a 300-page initiation piece entitled Initiating Coverage of the Semiconductor Industry: Riding the Bandwidth Wave, Kellis became a leading semiconductor analyst at one of the biggest firms on Wall Street. The experience he gained as a Wall Street analyst provided an excellent backdrop for becoming an expert on relationships, and resulted in his relationship book entitled Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage.

ABOUT THE BOOK:

The journey through “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” includes a trip through history, where the most significant lessons civilization has learned over the last few thousand years are used to demonstrate not only the way to set up a positive relationship, but the causes of that relationship turning negative.

Additionally, I dive into the science of psychology to answer the most basic question anyone asks who goes through the pain of divorce, “why didn’t we work out”?

The basic premise of the book is that we have a 50% divorce rate yet there doesn’t appear to be anything happening to help solve this problem. Just because divorce has become a significant part of our culture doesn’t mean we should simply sit back while countless families suffer through the agony of splitting up.

The toll to society tomorrow because of our culture of divorce today is impossible to determine but future generations will have to deal with this change to the culture that has occurred over the last two generations.

For the first time in history I elaborate on a psychological solution to our psychological problems so that couples can learn how to change the direction of their negative relationships. In essence, the psychological objective is to understand what happens mentally between two people who make one of the most important decisions of their lives, to get married.

The objective of this book is to provide real, logical help to couples so that they can learn how to stay out of the divorce trap. The bottom line is to learn how to set up your relationship so that you can maintain a happy, healthy, harmonious, loving, affectionate, intimate marriage.

Great Date-Night Ideas

Monday, March 16th, 2009

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Because I’m about to be a newlywed, and want to relish in the wedded bliss for as long as possible, I’ve set a goal to have a date-night once a month to “keep the romance alive”. Or whatever.

So I’m trying to collect great (and cheap!) ideas for some unique date nights (or days).

This is what I’ve come up with so far – I’d love some comments to help me come up with other ideas.

Dinner and a movie – yes, it’s classic, timeless, and probably pretty boring. But we do this at home, with take-out pizza and a good (or terrible, depending on Netflix) action flick to keep us entertained. We’re actually doing this a few days after our wedding, and I’m considering it our first official married persons date.

Morning at the farmer’s market – okay, so not technically a date “night”, but I’m pretty excited to bust this one out once the Farmer’s Market hits it’s stride. We’ll be able to pick up some locally-grown foods, and enjoy the people watching and the sunshine. All that’s missing is a dog on a leash and some cutesy kissing.

College game day – we’ve got a pretty popular college football team within an hour’s drive of us, and we try to get to a game at least once a year. This fall, I’m definitely going to count it as a date, as we go just the two of us and have such a great, coupley time whenever we’re there.

Ice skating – once the weather gets cold, I want to go rent some skates and hit up one of our city park’s skating rinks. I haven’t been on skates in YEARS, and I think it would be a great way to get some good quality (butt) time in!

And that’s where my creativity runs dry. What are some other great date night suggestions?!

Handling Wedding Freak-Outs

Thursday, March 5th, 2009

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I’ve had my fair share of wedding freak outs in this whole planning phase. And now that we’re a mere three weeks away, I’d hoped that all the big planning and such being done, I’d be free of the major freak-outs for the duration.

So when this morning, as we were getting ready for work, an e-mail threw my for a loop and caused a major freak-out on my part, The Monkey did what he does best – he tried to get practical about it, and help me see how it wasn’t as big a deal as I thought it was, and that it would all work out.

And of course, because I was still in the throes of panic over it, I snapped at him. Bad. And for about twenty minutes.

So now that I’m free of the major portion of the freak-out (I’m still internally panicking, don’t get me wrong. I’ve just finally hit an external sense of calm.) I’m wondering how others deal with this sort of thing. Stress, blowups, dealing with panicking, all that.

I tend to be someone who needs to be allowed to panic, no matter what, until the panic has run it’s course. Then I’m all sorts of ready for practical solutions, and welcome the help. But until I’m there, until I’m ready to hear it? It’s best to just let me panic. And The Monkey has a very hard time with that, so this isn’t the first fight like this we’ve had. Any suggestions for curbing this sort of drama in the future?

When she’s not writing here, Robyn is contemplating the awesomeness that is Showtime.

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