Marital Talk

The top five things couples argue about are : money, sex, children, work, and housework. ( http://www.sixwise.com/newsletters/06/02/22/the_top_5_things_couples_argue_about.htm)

Maybe that is why we don’t argue, at least not often. We do disagree at times, and that is ok, but we don’t argue anymore. Here are the reasons we don’t argue about these things:

Money- we don’t have to argue about it because when we do have money (that is not for current bills)- we already have talked about what to do with it, and it is usually to pay past bills, replace something that broke, or repair something. We both have common goals for what we want to do, and agree on things before they happen. That prevents arguing.

Sex- we don’t argue about sex because we both know we need to give to each other. The bible tells us that his body is mine and mine is his- therefore we do not deny each other. ( we also both enjoy sex- and that is a big help!)

Children- We don’t argue about the kids- ever! We had six years together before we had kids, and we decided together how we would raise them, and how we would handle different situations. Of course there are always things that come up unexpectedly- such as a daughter getting married while still in high-school, but we pray together and come to the same conclusion on almost all decisions we have to make. Discipline has always been agreed on, so there is no argument there.

Work- We don’t argue about work, we both know it has to be done. If I feel like Dan is working too much I say so, but generally he doesn’t do that. He knows our limits as a couple, and he is wonderful about making time for us.

Housework- Why fight about something that will always be there? There are more important things in life than having a spotless house. If you come to my house, you will see a very happy family living in a very lived in house.

Choose your arguements wisely. What is worth fighting over? Make the choice to fight for things that are worht having stress and strife over- that is not every little thing. Come to agreement before situations arise.

Talk a lot, argue a little, and agree to disagree on the things that make no difference.