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Do You Call Them Mom and Dad?

by Rhyah Fletcher

Well everything is back to normal around here. I spent the weekend cleaning….it’s weird how you clean everything before people come and by the time they leave your house feels disgusting. My in-laws visit was pleasant overall, although it did have its dramatic moments. The annoying cousin that came around more often got pretty close to being punched in the face by my husband. Thankfully, he kept his cool and there was no bloodshed.

Now for a question. How many of you call your in-laws mom and dad? I still call my in-laws by their names rather than mom and dad. To me it feels weird to call people who aren’t my actual parents mom or dad. My husband has made more of an effort to call my mom “mom” but usually he calls her by her name instead. I know my in-laws would like me to call them mom and dad, but so far I haven’t been able to do it comfortably. And it’s not because I don’t love or respect them, it’s just doesn’t feel right to me. My husband is fine with it. He doesn’t feel offended that I don’t call his parents mom and dad like he does and vice versa. The strange thing is I will write mom or dad in a birthday or some sort of occasion card;I just can’t bring myself to actually call them mom or dad out loud. The stranger thing is that both my husband and I call each other’s grandmothers ‘grandma.’ We have no problem with the grandma thing, just the mom and dad thing. Are we alone as a married couple? Do most married couples adopt their spouse’s parents as their own and call them mom and dad? Or are there other couples like us who can’t seem to utter those two simple words?

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3 Responses to “Do You Call Them Mom and Dad?”

  1. Kim Says:

    It took me forever to be able to call my in-laws Mom and Dad, but it equates to now I’m much much closer to them. But my husband calls my Mom and Dad “Grammy and Papa” b/c that’s what the kids call them.

  2. Jarrett Says:

    I’m cool with calling my future mother-in-law Mom, but I often vacillate on the Dad thing.

    Maybe it will change in the next few weeks before my wedding.

  3. Victoria Garson Says:

    My husband wants me to call his dad “dad” but its hard for me because i have my dad and its hard to call anyone else that. My husband however has no problem calling my dad and mom by “dad” and “mom”. When it comes to his grandparents I always call them grandma and grandpa. I don’t know why I can’t seem to the dad one down. It feels weird.

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