Marital Talk

Have you ever run across a point in your marriage where you fall in love all over again with your wife or husband? Sometimes, with all our busy lives offer us, we can overlook the reasons we chose to marry the person we come home to everyday. I had one of those “Ah-hah” moments this weekend. We had some family over for a BBQ and all the kids were swimming. They had been pestering my husband to go in the pool with them as soon as we finished eating. But, like the other adults, he kept putting them off with a “in a minute” comment. When the time came that he went into the pool with them, I went outside to watch. What I saw made me fall in love all over again with my husband and realize how great of a husband and father he is.

I saw a man act completely and utterly goofy to entertain a bunch of children all under 12. He made goofy faces, goofy voices, created whirlpools and waves, and held an extra large beach ball on his belly and proceeded to knock the kids out of the pool with it. The kids were a pile of arms and legs and laughter by the time he was done. The best thing was that he never raised his voice, never got annoyed by the constant pestering, and never said “no” when they asked him to do something silly. He totally threw himself into entertaining the kids. It helped me remember why, about 10 years ago, I threw myself into a relationship with him. It also made me fall in love with him all over again. Especially when I looked around at the rest of the adults who were nothing more than spectators.

I think it’s important to share these moments with your spouse. It’s easy to just move along with life thinking our spouse knows how much we care or appreciate them, but it helps when we actually tell them. I’ve been meaning to share with my husband my feelings of that day, but my childhood shyness overtakes me when it comes to sharing my feelings. Instead, I’ll let him read this post. If you have moments that make you realize how important your wife or husband is-share them. If you feel that you’re too busy to remember or even notice those moments try keeping an “Ah-hah” moment journal. Write down the times where you look at your spouse with a newfound love and admiration. Then when you have some alone time share those moments with them or just let them read your journal. Either way, it is important to remember why we chose to come home to this person everyday. Forget any current issues you may be having and relish in the memories of when your relationship was new. Then try to find those same moments in your marriage now. You may surprise yourself and your spouse with how much they haven’t changed.

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