Gabbing
This week is a strange one at our house. Dan had his bi-weekly overnighter last night. Tomorrow he goes out of town for the annual business meeting for two nights.
That means it is just me and the kids most of the week.
I love my kids, and I have a lot of fun with them- but I miss Dan terribly.
I am an odd wife I guess. I love being with Dan, and even after 27 years I look forward to being with him every chance I get.
Sometimes I think I may be a little abnormal in that area. Especially when I hear other women talk. I try not to get into those conversations, because nobody believes me when I tell them how good I have it, rather than how bad (if I said it was bad, I would be lying).
The norm is for women to confide in eachother about the frustrations in their marriage. But when they begin doing this, they tend to try to outdo eachother.
You know what I mean?
One may say “I wish my husband would move, all he does is sit and watch TV!”, then of course the next one will say “At least your husband showers before he watches TV, mine won’t unless we are going out!”
Then the next one might say something like “Well, my husband, he only goes out with the guys, not with me- thank GOD!!”
Do you see the problem here?
When we get into gabbing the bad, it gets worse than it really is- in our minds.
Why not gab the good?
Why is it that women like me feel like we are bragging if we say what a good thing we have, when really- we have it the way it should be?
I’m not saying there aren’t things to work on in my marriage, but I am saying that I refuse to concentrate on those areas when there are so many good things….the good outweighs the bad.
Concentrate on the good, and the next time there is any gabbing going on, either don’t participate, or say something that lets them know you have it better than that.
It might only take one to start the conversation flowing the opposite way.
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