Marital Talk

As most of you have already figured out, I’m not a very short and sweet kind of writer.  I try, oh how I try so hard.  But, the fact is, I just get all excited.  But, this one, this one is going to be short I promise.

My topic is this:  How do you and our spouse/significant other/partner handle the every day duties of running a home when one of the adults involved is sick?  With that, I mean sick as in 1.  has a cold or the flu  2.  sick as in has a temporary illness but that is lasting several months (I’ll explain in detail) or 3. has a long term illness?

1.  Tell me what it is like in your house when you get sick.  Who picks up the extra work that you simply can’t do because you are sick?  Or does anyone bother to help out?  Secondly, what happens when your spouse/partner is sick?  Do you pick up his/her share of he work?  Or do you leave it for them as they maybe did the same to you at one point?

Ok, see, that was pretty short.  That’s my first question.

2.  What happens when one of the adults in the house has a temporary illness but one that lasts for longer than say the flu?  For instance, my husband broke his leg two years ago?  I worked myself into a frenzie around here trying to do my part and his part.  Is that the case at your house?  And, currently I have mono and my husband has been dealt a hand of doing more of the childcare than he already did which was quite a darn bit before.  As long as I rest good for a few days, I can have a few good days.  But, instead, what happens is, we get excited when I feel well and we spend 3 or 4 days on the go and then I have to spend 3 or 4 days in the bed.  What happens at your house under these circumstances?

A side note here, my husband has missed one sick day in 6 years other than when he had a broken leg.  And, even then, he would log into the computer system at work and do what he needed to do from home on many days.  However, since I’ve met him, I’ve had 2 c-sections, spent 12 weeks of one pregnancy on bed rest and 11 weeks of another pregnancy on bed rest, I’ve had 3 miscarriages, a hysterectomy, a major back surgery which involved about 2 months in bed and another 2 months of doing nothing and now with the mono bit which my doc predicts will last well into the month of October.  So, you can see who has been the one drawing the short stick at my house for quite some time.  I’m just curious what would happen at your house under these circumstances.  And, for you single parents, how do you handle these kinds of situations?

Ok, so that one wasn’t very short.  Sorry.

3.  One adult has a long term illness?  For instance, I am a diabetic, I have a thyroid disorder and now I have mono.  Hopefully by the end of October I will be back to normal.  But, cancer is rampant in our world.  How do the adults work out all the logistics when one of the adults has cancer, is paralyzed, etc?  Tell me how it works in your house, please.

Ok, see, that wasn’t so bad.  And, also, in all three questions I really would like to hear from the single parents. 

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