Marital Talk

My in-laws are visiting for the next two weeks. This made me realize how important in-laws are to a marriage. Everyone says that when you marry, you marry not only your husband or wife but their whole family too. Luckily, I have a good relationship with my in-laws. My husband and mom get along fairly well also, though I would say they’ve had more ups and downs than I have had with his parents. His parents are still married which seems almost like a rarity anymore. My parents are divorced so he gets to deal with my mom and stepdad and dad and stepmom. With the invasion of the in-laws happening this summer, I’ve decided to dedicate this week to in-law discussions. Meddling in-laws, disapproving in-laws, overhelpful in-laws, loving in-laws, and any other sort of in-law you can think of.

To start with I’ll give you a little insight into the in-law dynamic in my marriage. My in-laws have accepted me from the moment I started dating my husband. My mother, on the other hand, took a little longer to warm up to my husband. When we were teens my husband was one of those boys your mom or dad hoped you would never meet. Thankfully, my husband outgrew his delinquent days and turned into a wonderful husband and father. Now my mother can’t say enough good things about him. My in-laws don’t really get involved in our marriage. Occasionally they may ask how things are, or toss us a few dollars if they sense we’ve hit a rough spot we’re not talking about, overall they’re just really great people. My mother is the same way for us. My stepdad and husband don’t really talk. They’ve had some issues that stem from the past so his relationship with his in-laws is mostly just with my mother. My father is around, but not much, so they haven’t really forged a relationship. Overall though, we both have decent relationships with our in-laws. Sometimes when there are rough patches you have to realize that usually their family just has their best interest at heart. It’s similar to that song I Loved Her First….except think of it has They Loved Them First.

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