Marital Talk

Sexual desire fluctuate because that just how life is.  And, the time of the relationship changes the different levels of desire.  When you first marry, after you have a child, when the kids leave home, when job pressures are bad, all of those times change the way we feel about sex and our attractiveness. 

Here’s a few tips to make your marriage sexy.  First and foremost remember that impotence is a common problem at every stage of marriage and can take months to clear.  Talking about the problem can help and wise couples recognize that it is a wake-up call but could be a signal of stress somewhere else in the relationship. 

Don’t save affection for the bedroom only.  My husband and I used to greet one another at the front door with hugs and kisses.  But, as the years wore on, we barely manage a kiss goodnight.  It’s important to make sure you don’t let go of the things that felt so good in the beginning.  Make time for love, make loving your mate a habit, you know, the more you do it, the more you like it.  Make sex a top priority even if it means scheduling sex. 

Talking to your mate every day, even if it is just for ten minutes in the morning and ten minutes at night can help the two of you stay close.  You can remember so much about your partner that you might otherwise forget.

As I mentioned above, my husband and I once greeted each other at the door with hugs and kisses.  Now, as I try to remember the last time we kissed, I’m reminded that kissing should be something you do often.  I’m not talking about the little peck that my husband just planted on my forehead, I’m talking about kissing as if you are making out in a dark theater.

If you are like me, your bed may have another body planted right between you and your spouse.  So, you have to be adventurous and find places other than behind a locked bedroom door for your sexual fun.  Break the rules that you’ve set for you and your spouse.  Get involved in an experiment with toys, videos and magazines.  And, finally and probably most importantly, learn to please your partner and make sure your partner knows what to do to please you as well.