Marital Talk

I am one of the few people who can honestly say that an onslaught of stress doesn’t effect me at the time it is occurring.  Death’s in the family, accidents by family members, children going extreme on their behavior or simply time crunches just don’t bother me.  Right then.  I don’t mind running from one activity to another.  Although, as I’ve aged, I like it less and less because I’ve found I love a good afternoon nap.  Basically what happens is I do just fine in the moment, then in a few weeks, usually 10 days or so, I have a break down.  I hit bottom and have to work my way back out of the funk.

My husband is directly the opposite.  He likes running from one activity to another, as long as they are his kind of activities and the kids aren’t acting up.  But, for the most part, the kind of dodging of bullets that we do with our time, he gets irritated.  He prefers to just quit doing any of it and not bother with even trying.  Now, that, that I can’t handle even in the moment.  I need someone to carry 50% of load or none of it.  Just helping 75% doesn’t do me any good because I don’t know when the help is coming.

When we owned the daycare, we didn’t necessarily argue but we jabbed at one another the whole weekend.  We would go about daycare work and just border on being rude to one another.  Stress will make you say and do things you wouldn’t necessarily do otherwise.

Well, I told you all that to say, this past weekend was wonderful.  We just gelled as a couple.  Lazy Friday night with take-out, he laid around all morning Saturday, I slept 9:30 or so and then ran some errands.  He put the boys down for a nap and then napped himself.  When I arrived home, the boys were awake and he happily took back the child care duties and allowed me a nap.  Then, we hit the local fair, you can read more about that here.    Then, Sunday, I slept til 11, he got the boys dressed for church and then snoozed himself.  We had lunch together with no children and then home for another nap.  The boys returned home from a day with the Nanny and the rest of the night just smoothly sailed right into bedtime.  The two of us then sat on the sofa, surfed and watched TV.

Now, weekends like this, we have a little more difficulty in making decisions on what to do and when to do it, having too much time on your hands is just not something we are accustom to.  But, really, there was no rude remarks or jabs at one another for something silly. 

It was nice to have a stress free weekend with my husband, my kids and just breeze through, only doing what we wanted to do.  Yes, my grass is 3 feet tall but it was raining yesterday so, what can you do?  Yes, my laundry is piled a mile high but I can do that today while I work.  So, what does that leave?  It leaves everyone refreshed and ready for a new week. 

I sure hope this becomes a routine because I sure to like just being calm, doing simple things and letting life happen around us. 

And you?  What happened over your weekend?  Relax?  Work?  Your Spouse?  Children?