Mrs Spitzer
According to the news, Governor Spitzer (NY) was caught using a prostitution ring. I watched the video of his statement, with his wife standing behind him, looking like she had been through a war.
And I imagine she has been. She most likely is going through a war within herself. Emotions flaring, thoughts of being betrayed, and maybe thoughts of condemnation. What it must take for women in that position to even stand next to their men, and not break down.
I for one can’t imagine the turmoil of being in that position at all, let alone in the public eye. How much courage and strength it must take to hold it together. How much self control it must require, to be decent to a man who has put the view of your marriage under a microscope for the world to see. And to know that people are possibly condemning you, for the actions of your life partner. What a world we live in.
Passing judgement on every person, and every decision. I don’t know how women or men can stand there and take it when they have a spouse who is unfaithful, and the whole world is judging. We judge them if they leave, we judge them if they stay. We judge them for the infidelity- both of them, the innocent and the guilty, and we judge them for splitting up as well as staying together.
Rather than pass judgement, we need ot look at ourselves, and in all reality of being human, say “But for God, there go I.”
We all have the capacity for being in this type of situation- either the offender or the offended. With great power comes great responsibility. Without great conviction, comes great falling.
Let’s remember, Mrs Spitzer is not the one who did this. She is however, the one who must deal with it.
I wish her well, whatever she decides to do, or not to do. And I pray for her to have the grace to go on living her life the best she can, regardless of what the media says or does.
marriage, infidelity, Governor Spitzer, prostitution, falling, adultery
March 10th, 2008 at 10:06 pm
Well said, Jean.
Ms. Spitzer should be left alone throughout this ordeal.
Her husband should not be accorded the same courtesy.
March 10th, 2008 at 10:09 pm
Amen to that!!!
I guess my point was that sometimes we tend to evaluate victims to the point of passing blame on to them. She was a victim here, as was the public.
March 10th, 2008 at 10:11 pm
Oh, and just for further information, I live in NY state, and I did not vote for Spitzer.
March 11th, 2008 at 10:38 pm
He’s lucky he’s not married to me. I’d probably have shot him.
March 12th, 2008 at 9:27 am
Jean, well said! I feel for Mrs. Spitzer as well as their children. Even though Mr. Spitzer has chose to do this I feel for him as well. He will be changed for life. I pray for healing for all invovled.
March 17th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
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