Marital Talk

Now, I"m finally going to close this big series of post that most everyone gave up on paragraphs ago but this is important.  I have been accused of writing something derogatory about another person.  No one seems to be able to provide me with the link to the place where I posted this "bad stuff" and no one can really tell me "what the bad stuff actually was" but that’s that. 

And, this person is now threatening bodily  harm on me.  I haven’t blogged about it.  It’s been an ongoing situation for about a month. Everyone who knows about it has suggested I contact the police.  However, I know from previous experience and from my lawyer from daycare, there is nothing I can do about this person unless they actually cause me harm.  So, if you find yourself telling people that I have contacted the police and then making judgements about my actions, you need to get affirmation that what you have written indeed true, lest you find yourself telling things that definitely aren’t true.  And, honestly, if you really believe any of the crazy stuff and feel so certain that it is true that you would stand on the street corner and gossip about it, discuss it over dinner with your family or blog about it, please make sure you are re-telling it correctly, lest you cause more harm than good.

So, for those of you out there who know about the situation, just know that I am doing the best I can to remain calm about it, but please, if you don’t have all the facts straight, please don’t reproduce the information that you think to be correct. 

And, finally, I suspect that no one can tell you what they would do in this situation unless they found themselves in this situation.  But, I can promise you one thing that I know no one would appreciate under these same circumstances…..being made fun of, being ridiculed for the manner in which they have chosen to handle it.  No one wants to be discussed in an untruthful manner and without first hand experience, a big part of what has been said in my situation came second handed and was untrue. 

Please, I ask you, be careful.  Learn to listen.  Learn when to be quiet.  Learn when to write.  Learn when to simply think.  But, when the decision to write arrives, make sure it is the truth that you write and not second hand knowledge. 

*Stepping off of my soapbox.  I’m very sorry to bring the New Year, 2009, in with such serious and somber topics, but something’s just needed to be brought out.  And, finally, when the sun goes down at night, and you find yourself laughing at someone whose writing has been exposed, then it would probably be a good idea to go read what you’ve previously written yourself and decide then and there if you truly want to your inner writings, your inner thoughts, the workings of your mind, etc to be exposed.  Because trust me when I tell you, people are vengant and people will do to you exactly what you’ve done to them.  And trust me again, a glass of cold water in the face feels like a glass of cold water in the face, regardless of who’s tossing water from the glass and in which direction it is going.  Simply put, for those of you by the water cooler chatting about this situation, don’t be surprised to hear your own inner thoughts being discussed at the snack machine while you stand by the water cooler and giggle yourself.

**OK, completely stepping down now.**