My first post here where I go off on the husband…
Ok, I want him to take some mental responsibility here. I want him to take some of the grief out of my brain and carry it around in his brain for a little while. Over 3 months ago I informed him that he was in charge of finances. I’ve done this many times and he always gets out of it some how.
This time, he kept saying, "let’s do it together" and I said, "no because his way of us doing it together is me doing it all". He promised to help and blah blah blah.
Since that time, I have continued to carry the financial burden in my brain while I try not to say anything to him and force him to be responsible for it. It hasn’t happened yet.
Today, I lost it on him. I explain to him that the main reason we went to counseling was his inability to take responsibility for "stuff". (Never mind that I took this as an opportunity to remind him that I asked him 3 weeks ago to move the garbage cans -long story, but it was 3 weeks ago?)
Then, he is short and snippity with our kids, then gets mad when they are smart-mouthing him. I call it teaching him the skills you want him to use, my husband calls it, "I’m the adult, he is the kid."
I’m trying not to paint a terrible picture of him because he is not, you know that from your previous readings, but this issue, these two issues, one of lack of taking responsibility and the other with the manner in which he talks to the kids….these 2 issues are really bothering me.
March 23rd, 2009 at 8:33 am
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