Marital Talk

Did you ever see a married couple, and think..”They look perfect together!”, and then find out they have many problems in their relationship?
Or did you ever see a married couple and think, “Wow, they don’t look like they belong together!” And then notice how well they get along and how much they seem to genuinely love eachother?
Opposites really do attract.
In my examples I was talking about appearances, which can be very deceiving.
In reality, I am talking about differences in personality.
My daughter and her husband are perfect examples of being opposites.
Katie is very expressive. If she is excited about something, everyone within sight and hearing distance knows it. She jumps up and down, and giggles like a little girl.
She will ask Andy (her husband), “Aren’t you excited???!!!”, and he will look at her with no particular expression on his face and say “yup”.
And he really IS excited….he just shows it with his answer, not his whole being.
Dan and I are opposites in a lot of ways.
I am more emotional and not as quick to make decisions. He is emotional, but keeps everything in balance. I let my emotions determine how I deal with people a lot- he is always steady and fair…no matter how he feels inside.
Dan is more impulsive and I am more reactive.
Dan is more prayerful, I am more apt to think.
Dan loves music and collects it.
I love books, and to his dismay I have a lot of them. (and keep getting more.)
Even amidst all the opposite parts of us, there is agreement.
Katie and Andy love the same things. They both enjoy running and the outdoors. They want the same things out of life. They have the same goals and dreams for their family.
Dan and I love being together. We enjoy eachother and agree most of the time. We also know how to disagree agreeably.
We share the same vision, one we have built together for ourselves and our family. We have talked about our future and how we want us to be when the kids are grown and gone on with their own families.
We share life.
Coming to the conclusion that just because opposites attract, there is a connection between the opposites that binds them together- with work.
If Dan and I were the same, we wouldn’t need eachother.
I am thankful for our differences, and for the ability to work with them, rather than against them. In doing such, we have allowed a wonderful marriage to grow.
I am complete because I have what I am missing in myself….Dan.