Parenting: Different Style This Weekend
Normally my husband and I do almost everything together. It has been a very rare occasion that we’ve gone separate ways when he is off work. However, last night I was feeling overwhelmed with the 3 year old’s behavior as well the counselor pretty much let me know that he felt like part of the problem I was describing was I am over-bearing.
Over-bearing? I won’t really argue with that. But, as much as I am over-bearing, my husband is laid-back. My style is sit back, tell the boys to stop doing something after they’ve become obnoxious and then really lower the boom. I prefer to simply keep them on track as the events transpire.
The counselor basically said that I had to back off and give him a chance to parent. He said I had trained my husband to parent that way.
Anyway, on Thursday night I sent him to Home Depot and home with the boys and I got my manicure and pedicure. Alone, just me and my book. Friday night he is at home depot actually buying the lumber he priced last night and I hit McDonald’s for the boys to play before getting them a haircut and heading home.
Saturday the boys will either be cooped up inside the house with me while my husband dismantles the deck and rebuilds one (once it is down, we won’t be able to get out of the house without jumping six feet). If my mom is better the kids will go spend a little time with her but mostly they will be in the house with me (and my parenting style), outside in the yard with my husband (and his parenting style and please don’t let them get hurt because of his negligence) or with my mom and her even more laid back style.
It is no wonder these children are confused about what is acceptable behavior.
October 22nd, 2009 at 3:24 pm
Cuántas veces habrás estado escuchando su música preferida o un emocionante partido de fútbol y de repente te quedas sin pilas en su radio.