Marital Talk

Since my husband had that lovely dental visit, I had to do his job tonight and bath boys as well as get them to bed.  I never do this part.  I haven’t ever done it all by myself when my husband was home.  To be honest, I’ve never done it alone when he wasn’t because my mom would help me.

I know, I’m spoiled.  But, I did it tonight and our children are in their own beds, sleeping…just like every night when daddy does it.  Our referral to the marriage counselor was about my husband’s attitude.  Did we manage to work through that and get it together?  We sure did.  Although, I did have to say "if he keeps treating my kids like he has for the last 6 months, I want a divorce". 

But check that one off of the list of issues to discuss with counselor. CHECK.

The second issue was where our children slept.  Which was …in our bed. When we first discussed this Wayne told the counselor that he wanted them out of our bed but that I didn’t.  I told the counselor that what Wayne said was correct.  They don’t bother me when they sleep in our bed.  I also told the counselor that even though it didn’t bother me, I was willing to do what ever I had to do to get them out of our bed so that my husband would be happy.

You know, if it was that important to him, then as his wife, I needed to do what I had to do (since it wasn’t about harming my children or anything) to make my husband happy.  At that time, the counselor told us over and over and over and over again that "if you want this I can help you do it, but you both have to be in agreement" and he would let out this exasperated sigh.

I told him over and over and over again, I will do it even though it doesn’t bother me because it does bother my husband and I want him to be happy.  And, we bantered back and forth through about 3 sessions.

Today, I called the counselor out.  I said to him, "I knew from the look on your face that you didn’t believe I would do what ever I had to about the sleeping issue in order to make my husband happy".  He kind of half-laughed and asked me what I was meaning in particular.

The plan was that Wayne would put the kids to bed and no matter how bad they cried and begged to go to mommy’s bed, I would stay out of it and let him handle it.  I knew from the counselors face that he didn’t believe me when I said, "yes I will stay out of it.".

So ,I called him on it today.  After I explained it again, he kind of finally said "yes you are right, I’ll see you in two weeks, bye".  And again he laughed.

As he said in the very first session, counseling a counselor is simply  not an easy task.  HEHEHEHEHE