The Victim
Fear- of being alone, of not being able to make it on their own, of being killed, for the children’s safety, of living life without the abuser…. all reasons women stay in abusive relationships.
The Victim (By Jean Lockwood, October 2, 2007)
When the abuser hurts her children, she looks the other way. She sees how bad it is, but she chooses to stay.
When the abuser controls her movements, she cowers down in fear, Not knowing where to turn, not knowing who will hear.
When the abuser threatens leaving, or maybe even death, she forgives and lets him stay with her- but fights for every breath.
When the victim finally takes a stand, for herself and for her kids, She hides in fear of being found- not a good way to live.
When the abuser says he’s changed, and begs her to remain- she gives in and believes him once again, only to tighten her chains.
When people see the bruising on her face and her arm, they turn away and pretend that there really is no harm.
She is all alone, nobody to stand by her side. People don’t want to get involved, they would rather die.
She’s the one who may die in the end, and he may not be blamed. After all, she chose to stay with him- she is the family’s stain.
Only in our selfish hearts, does the victim take the blame.
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I wrote this after hearing a conversation about an abuse victim at our Bible study this morning. My heart goes out to those who feel they have no choice, but continue to live in an abusive home- watching children be beaten beause they are in fear of even worse things being done. Choose not to look the other way, reach out in love to those who are hurting. Don’t judge them, or their fears. If they know someone genuinely cares, and will be there when nedded, they will eventually open up and let you help in whatever way is called for.
This is my goal;to be approachable, loving, understanding, and available.
For information on how domesic violence effects kids, read my blog, Parenting and Religion.
abuse, domestic violence, abuse victim help, victims
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