Three Things
Over at Parenting Sites 411, Marilyn Porter asks what three things you would wish for your kids to experience during their lives. I want to put a different spin on that premise, and suggest asking your spouse a question: “What are three things that mean a lot to you, that I can do, change, or try?”
One friend I have who did this was surprised by the simple request for her to have fresh squeezed lemonade available regularly. Such a simple thing, and so easy to do.
I asked Dan, about 2 years ago, and he has so far only given me two answers. I am still waiting for the third. His requests were also simple, and easy for me to comply with, but they are things I never would have thought would mean much to him…surprises abound even after 27 years of marriage.
This is a good way to get a better idea of what your spouse thinks is important, and what their love language is. It is also a great way to show that you do care about what they want, and are willing to work at your relationship.
I am still waiting for the third thing, and every once in a while I remind Dan that he still has one thing to come up with. Maybe he is waiting to think of the perfect thing….or maybe he already thinks things are pretty good. Either way, I win because I am making him happy.
There are so many things we can do as married couples to build on our relationships. Knowing what things mean a lot to each other is one step. A happy healthy marriage is built one step at a time. Taking the step puts us on our way.
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