Marital Talk

Being a part of team isn’t always.  I’ve been part of athletic teams, academic teams, employee teams and I’ve attempted the marital team 3 times prior to this final fourth marital team.  I’m not sure what makes this marital team work so much better than any before, but we really do work well. 

I’m not real sure I believe in the whole "one and only soul mate" because I’ve connected with many people over the years.  I guess my first real connection was with the two girls that I’ve been friends with since we were 14 years old. 

We were all born  in the 1968.  Cheryl in March, e in September and Connie in October.  Thus, if you do the math, this is the year we all turn 40.  Another connection is one I had with a guy in high school.  We barely spoke to one another the first 2 years of high school.  But, as class sizes decreased, friendships with the your classmates increased.  This guy and I eventually became really good friends.

From there, it is hard to say that I had a real soul mate kind of connection again.  That’s why I say I don’t buy into the "one and only soul mate" theory.  Alas, my husband and I now aren’t what I would deem as "soul mates".  We are a team, we work together really well and both of us are happy.

This week has brought about the team work in our marriage more than usual I think.  Basically, my husband normally rises at 4:30 or 5 to go to work.  So, the very fact that he has slept til 7 or 7:30 when the boys get up means that he has slept-in.  That’s important because for me, sleeping in means 9 or even 10.  But, since the boys usually rise by 7:30, he is up with them, he has had the opportunity to sleep late and so have I.

From there it is a series of team work that would get us all dressed, beach supplies gathered, pool supplies, towels, reading material, cameras, phones, keys, etc.  But, we managed it like old pros. 

Once on the beach, I manned the kids when they were playing in the sand, he took over once they stepped near the oceans edge.  Then, once we moved to the pool, we would share the duties of getting all the gear to the shower, I would hand it to him as he rinsed it off.  I kept it separated and then we would head for the pool.

Part of the time we both got in the pool, others Wayne got in with them alone.  Either way, it seemed to fit both of our personalities to do what we had to do and everyone was happy. 

Back in the room was much the same, I stripped the boys down, he ran them some warm water to rinse off with while I gathered their clothes.  One of us would pick up the mess while the other helped the youngest get dressed. 

There’s no reason to keep up with all the examples, I’m just proud to say that we work well together.  We may not be what some people would considered "one and only soul mates" but we are most definitely a marital team.